I have always been fascinated about how the state of a marriage affects the productivity of each spouse and in turn, the offspring of such marriage. Surely, if one has decided to get married, one hopes it will be to the same person forever. Alas, this is often not the case.
With the daunting statistics of troubled marriages, one is tempted to conclude that there is no such thing as an awesome marriage.
Picking up this book was a challenge for me as I really wanted to focus on leadership and self-development books. For some inexplicable reason, I picked this up and realised that I had indeed judged the book by its cover (or its title as the case is here).
Although the book, in my opinion, has a slow start, it quickly builds up and gets interesting when Kim Kimberling shares stories of couples (including himself) who have done the same thing repeatedly whilst expecting different results. He shows us ways we can step back to observe the patterns in our lives that lead to destructive relationships. He doesn’t stop there…he goes on to show us ways we can fix it.
He shares his 7 secrets to an awesome marriage which are:
- Stop: The Insanities that hold us back
- Start: The practice of putting God first and spouse second
- Connect: The art of listening and being present
- Engage: How to fight right
- Balance: Scheduling for a better marriage
- Mingle: Sex as the mingling of souls
- Fight: The power of fighting together on the same team
Life is hard enough and there is no sense in making it harder still by ill-equipping ourselves for the journey ahead. Although this book is targeted at married couples and those who want to get married, the soft skills Kim teases out will definitely help you in your daily relationships with other people.
What books have you read this month?
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