I have decided I must make a conscious effort to let go and trust that things would go well. I don’t need to know the technical details, I just have to trust that things would get done within the timeframe set.
This is so hard for me, especially as I naturally have a compulsive desire to exert control over situations. Yes, I know, I can’t control the outcome of everything but one can only dream.
I have read books, gone to seminars and workshops on how to relinquish control and trust that things would go according to plan and if they don’t: c’est la vie.
A couple of years’ ago, I had what I would call a ‘quarter life crises’ and it made me realise that life is to be enjoyed and not tolerated.
It is necessary to take a breather – time out to truly enjoy life, appreciate people close to us and; value our hobbies, talents and skills in the workplace.
So, I am going to share a few things that have worked for me so far:
- Plan: I would not deny that planning comes naturally to me and I almost need to plan every single detail of my life to have a semblance of sanity. I have embraced the fact that I am an obsessive planner but I have made a decision not to freak out when plan go awry. I have even done a couple of things impulsively: this weekend I am off to Southend and I have no idea what I am doing there. All I know is that I have tickets booked for the first train out and last train in…shudder!
- Trust: I can’t effectively delegate anything without trusting the delegatee, there has to be a modicum of trust which frees me to focus on relevantly more important things. It also encourages the team to strengthen their skills and confidence.
- Laugh: I have found that when I watch or read something humorous, my stress levels dip and I am a pleasurable person to be with. So daily, I read humorous comics (Dilbert) and watch clips from The Big Bang Theory which keeps me in a good mood.
How do you keep yourself happy?